gaiz, I'm totally desperate

[gamedude]

That girl I talked about? She's been through rough times, and I want to help but she won't let me. I know darn well how it feels being alone and unable to trust anyone. I told her what I feel about her and it's different now but she still won't let me be there for her.

Does anyone know anything I can do?

[iceberg]

For gods sake, don't force it.

This thing should explain everything that you need to know.

[gamedude]

I know. I don't want to force her but I would kill for someone who would care about me like I do for her. My life's just always been this hollow and she always makes me smile when I look at her. I want her to feel happy.

[Faye]

Hug her head close and whisper softly to her that you're there to listen, not to give advices.

[gamedude]

How much as I'd love to, I'm just to timid to do that

I'm not even sure if she would let me

Still, thanks for trying guys.

[iceberg]

I wouldn't go with physical contact too early.

She may just flip out on you.

[Faye]

Best time to strike a female is when she's depressed.

[gamedude]

T.T

Faye, you sure you ain't a guy?

I'm not like that, and I don't want to. I never really have any time alone with her, only on MSN. We kinda made a saddistic dream-story on MSN, a twisted fantasy if you will. I thought it would've been our little secret and now she wanted to include another guy. She always tried to hurt me physically before I told her I loved her, and she stopped doing that now. She still does it to another guy, and she's been hanging around other guys alot now. It all just makes me feel so worthless and jealous
I wanna be with her alot but I don't wanna "invite" myself to go to her, y'know? Becuz of my timid nature.Her trying to hurt me is about the only attention a girl ever gave me, that's what made it feel so good.

I'll just shut up now before teh internetz people will call me a freak -___-

[xelemental]

Frea....

But well, that much is true what Faye said. If you're helped out when in a pinch, of course you'd symphatize with the helper.

Though, it has some similarities with the Stockholm syndrome.

However, I can't give you any real advise on this matter - going aganist your nature never works.

[gamedude]

I'd love to help her out if I could, but I don't know what's the problem (if there is any)

[iceberg]

Are you sure she's not just using you to compensate for her own faults?
Maybe she's just a sadist, and enjoys seeing you squirm.

[Faye]

Apr 25, 2008 14:28:22 GMT -5 gamedude said:

I'd love to help her out if I could, but I don't know what's the problem (if there is any)

Just go ask her what the problem is... What's the worst thing that can happen? Show sincerity in patience, and she will succumb. Don't expect to give out advices. You just need to listen to her story.

[gamedude]

She is a sadist (and so am I) but not on the emotional side of it. Only physical suffering, especially since what we've been through. She found a way to struggle through and become social again, and I just ... got stuck. I became scared of human contact. I barely speak in public or make eye contact. That's all I wanna do, listen to her. But I'm scared of asking, not just because of speaking but I'm afraid of being a nuissance. And she just said to be in love with someone (definatly not me) although she always claimed to feel nothing.

I think the only thing keeping my mind from ripping into little pieces right now is chewing gum and cheap glue or something

[Faye]

That's the problem we can't help you with: Courage.

[gamedude]

Well, thanks anyway